February 13 | Ephesians 5:25-27, 33
“Husbands love wives just as Christ also loved the church and gave himself for her, for the purpose that he might sanctify her, having cleansed by the washing of water by the word, so that he might present her to himself, the glorious church, not having a spot or wrinkle or anything but so that she is holy and blameless.” (Ephesians 5:25–27)
“Only let each and every one of you love his own wife; in the same way as he loves himself, and let the wife respect her husband.” (Ephesians 5:33)
There are more divorces in the world then marriages that last. And in the church, it’s not much better. The biggest reason they don’t last is finances, followed by communication. One of the deeper issues I see as a pastor is that husband and wife don’t really love each other deep down.
Sounds harsh, right? But think about it. If an unconditional love was the foundation of every marriage, every problem husband and wife face would be solved. If Jesus is the center of the marriage, there is always a solution.
Deep unconditional love, not wishy-washy emotional love, must be your foundation. Husbands represent Jesus, and love like Jesus in their marriage. They must have a sacrificial love, being willing to die for their wife. Wives must love their husbands enough to respect them even when they are finding their footing.
Jesus loved us when we were his enemies. Husbands can find a way to love their wives. Wives can find a way to respect their husbands. If unconditional love is the foundation, the house will stand against every storm. Adversity strengthens the marriage like weightlifting strengthens muscles.
Action Step: Find a way to show your spouse your unconditional love for them today. The Five Love Languages is an excellent book for discovering your mate’s love language, the way they feel love from you. It may not be yours. But today’s about them, not you.
Lord Jesus, help me to find ways to show my spouse I love them deeply. No matter what we face as a couple, be the center of our marriage and keep us a couple through the storm. Bless my spouse today with your love and favor.